Trusting your teen

Trust between a parent and teen can take a big hit after suicidal behavior.  You may have thought that your teen could keep themselves safe, and now you’re not so sure. It may take some time before that trust has been built up again.  Even more, it may take some time to rebuild the emotional trust between the two of you. Some parents may feel betrayed that their teen would do something like this to them.  Other parents may feel deeply hurt by their teen’s suicidal behavior. These feelings are understandable. There are a few ways parents can start to rebuild a sense of trust in their teenager:

First, take it slow. Start with small ways you can give your teen opportunities to earn back your trust. Monitor them closely to see how they do, and slowly take steps to increase their independence. Many parents and teens may feel frustrated by the changes in their relationship following suicidal behavior. This is normal! Remember, this is temporary, and with time and patience you can rebuild your relationship.

Second, remember to give your teen credit when they earn it. When they listen to you and meet your expectations, be sure to tell them how much you appreciate it and how it helps you to trust them more and more. Focusing on the positive can be difficult during a stressful time, but it will go a long way and can make a big difference in your relationship.

Be sure to take care of yourself! Talk with your therapist, Care Support Manager, or another trusted adult if you are struggling with anxiety and worry about how to trust your teen.